In my twenties some of my friendships have changed. I realized that’s apart of growing and evolving. However, the lost of one friendship taught me a really valuable lesson. When the friendship ended there was much conversation, but the things that were said, personally, I didn’t believe were true. I had a hard time recognizing the person I was painted to be. At first, I was taken aback and hurt because in my mind I was a great friend. However, after I stepped back, I realized that there wasn’t a right or wrong and everyone involved in this had their truth. But because their truth was different from mine, that didn’t make it null and void. Two people having different truths were ok because it is their experience. This revelation didn’t bring the friendship back but it taught me to always respect the experiences/truth of others whether I agreed or disagreed because it’s not my job to validate the truth but to understand the truth and then try to move forward if possible.

Lesson 9: my truth and experience are valid and so are yours.